Child
Popular Parenting Methods
The Power of Calm
Seek to understand
Acceptance
Love & Mercy
Family activities
Praise
Trust
Family Culture
Family Vision
Family Mission Statement
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Family Standard
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Tone
Structure
Family Meetings
1. Couples
2. Family
3. Mentor
4 Basic Skills (+1)
1. Following good instructions
2. Accepting "no" answers
3. Accepting consequences
4. Disagreeing appropriately
(+1) Giving a good instruction
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5 Teaching Styles/Forms (Skills)
1. Praise
2. Pre-teaching
3. Corrective Teaching
4. Intensive Teaching: Calm Spot & The Rule of Three
5. Parent Counseling Session
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Family Economy
1. Extra chore
2. Major Maintenance & SODAS
3. 24 hour loss of privilege's
Relationships
Modern Progressive (fear)
Bully / Fear-based (fear)
Traditional Strict (faith)
The Individual
1. Recognize the Power Struggle
2. Check Yourself*
3. Seek to Understand: What's not being seen?
4. Know What to Say
5. Wait for it
6. Really Understand:
Relationship building
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The 5 keys of Self-Government
1. Roles 2. Assess 3. Make a Plan 4. Act Deliberately 5. Communicate Effectively:
Identity, Purpose
& Relationships:
Individual and
Family Vision
& Mission.
Where is my heart?*
What am I
thinking and feeling?
What is the truth?
What is wanted?
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What is mine to do?
What skill/principle do I/they need here?
What are the words
I will speak, place I will come from and actions I will take?
Do what is yours to do from a place of real love, grounded in truth.
Assertive ="Speaking the Truth in Love"
Non- effective forms:
Aggressive
Passive
Passive aggressive
Teaching Self-Government
"At a Glance" Map